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No. 1 Secret to Success, Wealth and Happiness in Life

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“Kindness and generosity are the keys to happiness and prosperity.”Wahei Takeda, president and founder of Takeda Confectionery Co.

Wahei Takeda, president and founder of Takeda Confectionery Co., was considered a truly happy man, and lived by example a life that demonstrated to others what it really meant to live a successful and meaningful life. Often called the “Warren Buffet of Japan”, Takeda was one of the country’s most successful and well-known investors.

The key to a happy and abundant life

Takeda’s philosophy of “maro,” which in Japanese means ‘a sincere heart’, “inner contentment and gratitude are the keys to a happy and abundant life”.

The secret to a happy life isn’t an abundance of wealth, since rarely does anyone says they have too much, or just enough. “Winning a $20 million lottery ticket won’t make you happier,” said Dr. Sanjiv Chopra, a professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School. “Research has shown that after one year, lottery winners go back to their baseline. Some are even less happy.”

Chopra explains the four things that have been scientifically linked to happiness:

1. Relationship with Friends and family

Developing a close bond with people we trust and confide in is essential to our overall well-being. “Choose your friends wisely and celebrate everything small and good with them,” Chopra says.

Researchers have also warned that “loneliness and social isolation can be as damaging to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day,” whereas friendships can “reduce the risk of mortality or developing certain diseases and can speed recovery in those who fall ill.”

2. Forgiveness

“The ability to forgive frees you from the burdens of hate and other unhealthy emotions that can negatively impact your happiness quotient,” says Chopra.

He cites Nelson Mandela as a hero who truly mastered the art of forgiveness. In 1990, when the legendary freedom fighter emerged from his 27 years of prison, he was asked whether he had any resentment toward his captors.

“I have no bitterness, I have no resentment. Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies,” Mandela responded.

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”  Nelson Mandela

3. Giving

Chopra says that getting involved with charities and donating money to help others is one of the most fulfilling ways to spend your time and money.  Researchers have suggested that people who volunteer experience greater happiness, higher self-esteem and a lower mortality rate.

A study from the University of Chicago and Northwestern University found that giving, rather than receiving, leads to long-term happiness. In one experiment, 96 participants were given $5 every day for five days — with the option to either spend it on themselves or on others.

“Everyone started off with similar levels of self-reported happiness,” the researchers wrote. “Those who spent money on themselves reported a steady decline in happiness over the five-day period. But happiness didn’t seem to fade for those who gave their money to someone else.”

4. Gratitude

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” Roman Orator Marcus Tullius Cicero once

“There’s a wonderful anonymous quote that goes, ‘If you don’t know the language of gratitude, you’ll never be on speaking terms with happiness,’” Chopra says.

Practicing gratitude can be as simple as saying “I’m grateful” at least once a day. In fact, one study from the American Psychological Association found that doing so can help people savor positive experiences, cope with stressful circumstances and strengthen relationships. It will also measurably improve your own overall satisfaction and happiness in your relationships and life.

“Happiness flows not from physical or external conditions, such as bodily pleasures or wealth and power, but from living a life that’s right for your soul, your deepest good.” Socrates

“Taking time to think about what you’re grateful for makes you more aware of the positive things in your life,” says Chopra. As a result, “it makes you less biased by the fewer negative things in your life.”

In a money-obsessed capitalist society, the simplest way to reach a state of happiness, contentment and abundant life is to express gratitude and give to others, instead of always wanting or asking for more. Bottomline, “gratitude is a key to wealth, health, and happiness”.

References:

  1. https://www.cnbc.com/2021/01/25/warren-buffett-of-japan-secret-to-success-happiness-and-wealth-in-life.html
  2. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/05/31/harvard-professor-says-winning-20-million-lottery-wont-make-you-happy-but-heres-what-will.html?updated
  3. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/01/24/saying-this-powerful-phrase-is-the-science-backed-secret-to-a-happy-relationship.html?__source=iosappshare%7Ccom.microsoft.msedge.EMMXShareExtension

 

Stay Thanksgiving Safe

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“Nothing in life is to be feared; it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” — Marie Curie

CDC and other federal, state and local public health officials strongly advise Americans to avoid Thanksgiving holiday travel and gatherings. They warn of increase risk of spreading COVID-19.

“The tragedy that could happen is that one of your family members is coming to this family gathering and they could end up severely ill, hospitalized or dying. And we don’t want that to happen,” Dr. Henry Walke, the CDC’s COVID-19 incident manager said. “These times are tough, it’s been a long outbreak, almost 11 months, and we understand people are tired.”

Yet, many Americans are ignoring the warnings against travel during the Thanksgiving period. While the number of Americans traveling by air over the past several days was down dramatically from the same time last year, many pressed ahead with their holiday plans amid skyrocketing hospitalizations and confirmed infections across the U.S. Essentially, many Americans have grown weary of more than eight months of social distancing and determined to spend time with loved ones.

If you decide to travel or gather, there are a few Thanksgiving gathering safety tips you can take to manage risk to yourself and others. The CDC recommends:

  • Bringing your own food, drinks, plates, cups and utensils
  • Avoiding passing by areas where food is being prepared, such as the kitchen
  • Using single-use options, like salad dressing and condiment packets
  • Using disposable items like food containers, plates and utensils.

 

Attitude of Gratitude

During the current COVID-19 pandemic, it’s tough to take a moment to express how thankful and to express gratitude you are for life’s many blessings. All too often, there are never enough minutes in the day for all of your family obligations. And this past year, you’ve had more than your fair share of stress and challenges created by the pandemic and lockdowns.

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

References:

  1. https://www.usatoday.com/story/travel/news/2020/11/19/holiday-travel-cdc-recommends-americans-dont-travel-thanksgiving/3779090001/

Peace Be With You!

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“It isn’t enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it. One must work at it.” Eleanor Roosevelt 

Peace is much more wide ranging than the absence of violence, conflict and war. Peace is the presence of justice, tranquility and harmonious relations. Peace is an inner state of well-being and calm.

In Christianity, peace can be found through God’s mercy and grace. Peace is bestowed upon those who praise, worship and pray to him. Simply put, peace can be found when you relinquish control and hand matters over in your personal relationship with God. So…may “The peace of the Lord be with you.”

Finding Peace

Peace is a presence of tranquility and harmony that comes from within. It is a place of inner balance. You can experience it once you gain the capacity to truly manage your emotions, feelings and stress levels. It happens when you are less reactive in challenging situations. During these times, instead of reacting harshly or out of fear, you respond in a balanced and healthy way, trusting that all will be well in the end.

“Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Achieving peace is a continuous self-journey towards taking responsibility for your own life and loving yourself just as you are, all your imperfections and warps included. Though it might seem out of reach, putting our problems and struggles into perspective helps us move closer to reaching tranquility.

Peace begins with making an effort to be more calm and present. Peace does not waver in the presence of troubles or difficult situations. It allows you to act and make decisions from a place of love, not fear. It allows you to make rational, emotionally balanced decisions. Peace is like a superpower!

  • It helps to relieve stress, and helps you deal with stress more effectively when it does get tough.
  • It improves your overall focus and clarity.
  • It manifests self-awareness.
  • It reduces your negative, agitated thinking, and worry.
  • It improves your creativity.
  • It reduces your anxiety level.
  • It improves your relationships with others (and yourself).

Peace is a lifestyle that can be chosen, and as more people adopt it as a goal, we can live in a much better, more peaceful world. Peace gives you the power to control your mind, your emotions and your attitude.

“The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence.” Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

In essence, peace means not just freedom from trouble but everything that makes for a man’s highest good. Peace is more than the absence of war or something felt in the mind. It is a way of living life in a proper relationship between man and God, as well as man and man.

References:

  1. https://awakenedinspiration.com/what-is-inner-peace-and-why-would-you-want-it/
  2. https://lifehopeandtruth.com/god/holy-spirit/the-fruit-of-the-spirit/fruit-of-the-spirit-peace/
  3. https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/a27115824/peace-quotes/

Psychosocial Health

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It’s important that you choose to be happy, healthy and at peace!

Health is defined as the overall mental, emotional and physical state of a person; the absence of disease and ailment. On the other hand, wellness or well-being refers to the state of being in optimal mental and physical health.

But wellness is more than optimal mental, emotional and physical health. It’s about living a life in harmony, full of personal responsibility and taking proactive steps for one’s entire well-being. Thus, a person living life very well controls risk factors that can harm them. Risk factors are different types of actions or conditions that increase a person’s chances for illness or injury.

Psychosocial (mental, emotional, social, and spiritual) health and wellness

“The secret of a better and more successful life is to cast out those old dead unhealthy thoughts.” Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Psychosocial health includes four important components of well-being. It means being mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually sound which fortunately is no longer lost on traditional modern medicine. There’s plenty of proof that a healthy mind, content heart and grateful attitude are just as important for the prevention of diseases and therapeutic treatment. Therefore, this concept of psychosocial health, a state of mental, emotional, social, and spiritual well-being, deserves much attention and additional research.

Basic Traits of Psychosocial Health

“The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.” William James

Individuals who are deemed to be psychosocially healthy aren’t completely devoid of problems. Actually, it’s not the quantity or quality of a problem, which makes someone sound in this respect. It’s the way people view themselves and how they view and response to stressful situations that sets psychosocially healthy people apart from those who are not. Here are just a few traits shared by these robust individuals. They:

  • Like themselves
  • Accept their mistakes
  • Take care of themselves
  • Have empathy for others
  • Control their anger, hate, tension, and anxiety
  • Are optimistic
  • Can work alone and with others equally well

Mental Health

“To make your mind healthy, you must feed it nourishing, wholesome thoughts.” Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

The thinking portion of psychosocial health is known as mental health. Your beliefs and values in life, as well as how you relate to others and respond to situations in your life, are a reflection of mental health, which overlaps with the other aspect of health.

When something happens to you that you don’t like and you respond in a positive manner by accepting your mistake and looking forward to its correction, then that’s good. But if you show up late for work regularly, get fired, and then blame anyone but yourself, then that may be an indicator of less than ideal mental and emotional health.

Emotional Health

The feeling part of psychosocial health is called emotional health. This includes things like anger, love, hate, and happiness. Oftentimes, emotional and mental health overlap a great deal in some situations. Going back to our example of getting fired from work because you came in late multiple time, if you feel a bit down, but still have high hopes for the future, that’s a positive thing. But if you lash out in a blinding rage against your boss, sulk when you go home, and avoid everyone thereafter, then that may point to improper emotional health.

Furthermore, it’s not unexpected even for an emotionally healthy person to experience some sadness and grief after getting fired; that by itself isn’t conclusive of poor emotional health. Everyone, even the most optimistic people, have their ups and downs. But an emotionally healthy person is one that responds to a situation in a manner that is controllable, in proportion, and with understanding.

Emotional intelligence is an ability to understand and manage your emotions and those of others. It can be broken up into five main parts:

  • Know your emotions: Are you able to quickly recognize your feelings?
  • Manage your emotions: Can you express those feelings appropriately? Are you able to cope with them well?
  • Motivate yourself: The more you can do this independently in order to achieve more in your life, the higher your emotional intelligence.
  • Recognize the emotions of others: The more you can empathize with others, the better.
  • Handle your relationships: The better you are at navigating conflict in life and building a good social network, the higher your emotional intelligence.

Social Health

Having healthy relationships is a good way to also introduce social health, the ability to create and maintain healthy relationships with others. I’m sure you can already appreciate how much this is related to the concepts we went over in emotional health. Everything here is related because they are all part of the one overarching concept – psychosocial health.

Social health goes beyond having appropriate emotional health and intelligence. A person with good social health:

  • Recognizes the importance of social engagement. We’re pack animals after all! We’re not supposed to live alone!
  • A person with good social health is able to support their friends in a time of need and ask for their help when they need it themselves.
  • They aren’t biased, prejudiced, racist, or sexist.
  • Listens to others well, expresses their feelings just as well, and acts in a responsible manner around others.

An example of a person with good social health is someone who has close friends. They enjoy listening to and feels close enough to share important feelings with. The contrast is a curmudgeon who is bad-tempered and discourages close personal relationships.

Spiritual Health

When you enhance your spirituality, you form a relationship built on inner peace, love, faith and security.

Spiritual health is about having “something more” in your life. In practical terms, we’re talking about getting to know yourself—getting to know what you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, what you’re intending, what your fears are, and what your loves are, according to Gary Zukav author of Seat of the Soul.

Relationships can transform into a spiritual connection and partnership. If we use our relationships with ourselves, others and God (or an entity that is transcendent) to make us wiser, kinder, peaceful, grateful and more compassionate, we can actually change how the relationships work for us. We can have and enjoy the relationships and lives we’ve always dreamed of.

Higher levels of spirituality have also been linked to increased compassion, strengthened relationships, and improved self-esteem. “Our findings show that spirituality is significantly associated with better mental health and well-being and may add to an individual’s overall wisdom,” explains Dilip Jeste, senior associate dean for the Center of Healthy Aging and a professor of psychiatry and neuroscience at the UC San Diego School of Medicine. “Spirituality does not require religious faith but is characterized by humility and ever-present connectedness to oneself or to others or to an entity that is transcendent, such as Mother Nature or God or the soul. It helps reduce stress in many people and allows them to be more at peace, happier, and healthier.”

References:

  1. https://study.com/academy/lesson/what-is-psychosocial-health-definition-components-traits.html
  2. https://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/forging-a-spiritual-relationship/all
  3. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/202010/how-spirituality-wisdom-and-mental-health-are-intertwined
  4. https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2016/06/15/this-is-how-your-thoughts-become-your-reality/?sh=1dd1728528a0

Background:

Physical wellness: This means we exercise, eat well, practice safe sex, don’t do any dangerous activities like jumping off of buildings, and so on. Physical fitness increases physical wellness. By being physically fit and well, you are better able to take care of yourself and others, especially in a time of need. You are also better able to prevent illness and disease.

Intellectual wellness: Critical thinking, being curious, and always learning new things. Developing intellectual wellness is critical not only to help a person grow in school and do better at work, but it actually prevents the onset of disease. It’s been shown that people who regularly learn new things and challenge their mind can stave off many mental health problems.

Emotional wellness: Being confident, having a solid self-esteem, building trust, and being able to understand another’s feelings. A person who is emotionally well is aware of their feelings and is able to properly cope with them. Emotional wellness also implies a person can deal well with stressful situations.

Social wellness: Having good communication skills, the ability to establish good and healthy long-term relationships, and having good relationships with family and friends. Interpersonal relationships are very important in order to maintain a good emotional and physical state of being. We are, of course, ‘pack animals,’ so to speak, that depend on one another to survive and live well.

Spiritual wellness: The path to a spiritual wellness and relationship depends upon you because how you relate to yourself determines how spiritual you are toward others, according to Deepak Chopra. Developing compassion, forgiveness, being caring, having a sense of purpose and meaning in life. Spiritual wellness doesn’t automatically imply the need for religion in a person’s life. But, it does imply a personal relationship with God or committing to something higher. This personal relationship or commitment to something higher can be developed and found through things like nature, meditation, volunteer work, and family.

Mahatma Gandhi:

  1. You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
  2. Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
  3. Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.
  4. Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.

References:

  1. https://www.chopra.com/articles/how-to-have-a-true-spiritual-relationship

Healthy Aging and Lifestyle: Happiness and Gratitude

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Gratitude is the expression of appreciation for what one has.

Attitude of Gratitude and why gratitude sprouts happiness

“The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side” refers individuals who are not satisfied with their own lot in life and always assumes that there are better things in other places. This view appears to be a common human quality of always wanting something different than what you have. It assumes that your neighbor’s yard ( or circumstance) is greener (or more desirable) than yours, when, in reality, they are the same or your neighbor is actually coveting what you have.

“The grass is greener” expresses the idea that people often think a different set of circumstances would bring them greater happiness and joy in life; however, the phrase is often used in the context of reminding people that this is not usually the case. A more apt phrase is “the grass is greener where you water it., ” suggesting that good situations come from the energy you put into them, not from dreaming about them.

Developing an attitude of gratitude means that over time, gratitude can boost happiness and fosters both mental and psychological health, even among those already struggling with mental and physical health problems.

According to Psychology Today, “Gratitude is about feeling and expressing appreciation: for all we’ve received, all that we have (however little it may be), and for all that has not befallen us.” Studies show that practicing gratitude curbs the use of words expressing negative emotions and shifts inner attention away from such negative emotions as resentment and envy, minimizing the possibility of ruminating, which is a hallmark of depression.

Gratitude is a key tenet in all major philosophies and religions. That’s because gratitude is the foundation of happiness. We only have a limited amount of focus, so when you are able to be appreciative of what you have, your brain is unable to give life and energy to thoughts about what you don’t have. Seeing events in your life as gifts allow you to perceive how they may help you grow and become a better person, and the application of this attitude during tough times is the hallmark of resilience.

“Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.”

“Studies show that people can deliberately cultivate gratitude—and there are important social and personal benefits to doing so. It is possible to feel grateful for loved ones, colleagues, animals, nature, and life in general. The emotion generates a climate of positivity that both reaches inward and extends outward.” Norman Vincent Peale

Happiness is arguably one of the most important goals in life.

“Happiness has to do with your mindset, not with outside circumstance.” Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Happiness is best described as coming from between — that is if you get the right kind of relationship between yourself and other people, yourself and your work, and yourself and something larger than yourself… if you get those three relationships right … it will draw you out into the world, it will engage your passions, it will give you the kind of support that you need and want and it’ll give you a sense of meaning and purpose in life,” according to happiness expert Jonathan Haidt, the Thomas Cooley Professor of Ethical Leadership, based in the Business and Society Program at New York University.

“Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. There is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of its filling a vacuum, it makes one.” Benjamin Franklin

What makes a person feel happy and grateful depends on the person and the degree to which we are inclined to experience and express gratitude. It can be something as simple as a call from a friend or a pleasant evening dinner with family. Engaging in a more specific act and how we think about an act, such as volunteering your time and talent to help others, can make people feel good about themselves.

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Tips to Foster Gratitude

  • Keep a journal of or in some way note big and little joys of daily life.
  • Write down daily “three good things”—identify three things that have gone well for you and identify the cause.
  • Write thank-you notes to others.
  • Think about people who have inspired you and what about them was most significant.
  • Engage in “mental subtraction.” Imagine what your life would be like if some positive event had not occurred.

“Gratitude is the appreciation of things that are not deserved, earned or demanded – those wonderful things that we take for granted.” – Renée Paule

Learning to be thankful and regularly expressing gratitude is an important part of personal happiness. Being thankful gives us an appreciation for what we have.

  1. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/04/11/nyus-jonathan-haidt-formula-for-lasting-happiness-and-purpose.html?__source=facebook%7Cmain
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/some-assembly-required/201411/the-benefits-cultivating-attitude-gratitude
  3. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/gratitude

Bill Campbell – Trillion Dollar Coach

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“In business, compassion is a key factor to suc­cess.” Bill Campbell

‘Bill’s passion for innovation and teamwork was a gift to Apple and the world’. Tim Cook, CEO, Apple

‘Bill shared his wisdom generously, expecting nothing back but the joy he got from teaching others.’ Sheryl Sandberg , COO, Facebook

Bill Campbell helped to build some of Silicon Valley’s greatest companies — including Google, Apple, and Intuit — and to create over a trillion dollars in market value. Campbell believed that teams, not individuals, are the fundamental building blocks of organizations. Leaders can help their team be more productive, more innovative, and just plain happier by leading like a coach, not just a manager.

A former college football player and coach, Bill mentored visionaries such as Steve Jobs, Larry Page, and Eric Schmidt and coached dozens of leaders on both coasts. When he passed away in 2016, “the Coach” left behind a legacy of growing companies and successful people, and an abundance of respect, friendship, and love.

Eric Schmidt, Jonathan Rosenberg, and Alan Eagle experienced firsthand how Coach Bill built trusting relationships, fostered personal growth—even in those at the pinnacle of their careers—inspired courage, and identified and resolved simmering tensions that inevitably arise in fast-moving environments. To honor their mentor and inspire and teach future generations, they have chronicled Bill Campbell’s wisdom in the guide entitled Trillion Dollar Coach: The Leadership Playbook of Silicon Valley’s Bill Campbell.

Trillion Dollar Coach is a guide for bringing out the best in others and teams, for being simultaneously supportive and challenging, and for giving “more than lip service to the notion of putting people first”.

“A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be.” Tom Landry, former NFL Dallas Cowboy’s Coach

Good coaches employ encouragement, honesty, and caring to help every team member flourish. And according to Bill Campbell, business leaders should do the same, infusing their workplaces with compassion and people-first values that inspire employees to do their best work—and love their jobs.

Based on interviews with more than eighty people who knew Bill Campbell, Trillion Dollar Coach explains the Coach’s principles and illustrates them with stories from the companies and people with whom he worked and coached. The result is a blueprint for forward-thinking business leaders and managers that will help them create higher-performing and faster-moving teams and companies.

“Bill was the greatest executive coach the world has ever seen,” according to the authors. He coached executive leaders and also coached entire teams as a group coach. In the technology sector, innovation and speed are paramount, according to the authors. It is high-performing teams that lead to success.

“He always gave you a sense of perspective…what really matters at the end of the day is how you live your life and the people in your life.”

Bill cared about people. He treated everyone with respect, he learned their names, he gave them a warm greeting. He cared about their families, and his actions in this regard spoke more loudly than his words. “He cared about the whole you,” says Ruth Porat, Google’s CFO.

Bill would start meetings by asking about a colleague’s family and weekend and talking about his own. He always gave you a sense of perspective. That whatever you were doing was important, but he showed you that what really matters at the end of the day is how you live your life and the people in your life. It provided his coachees a respite in a busy day and a chance to ease their work-family conflict at least momentarily.

Bill made it okay to bring love to the workplace. He created a culture of what people who study these things call “companionate” love: feelings of affection, compassion, caring, and tenderness for others, according to the authors. He did this by genuinely caring about people and their lives outside of work, by being an enthusiastic cheerleader, by building communities, by doing favors and helping people whenever he could, and by keeping a special place in his heart for founders and entrepreneurs.

Bill Campbell’s Manifesto:
 
People are the foundation of any company’s success. The primary job of each manager is to help people be more effective in their job and to grow and develop. We have great people who want to do well, are capable of doing great things, and come to work fired up to do them. Great people flourish in an environment that liberates and amplifies that energy. Managers create this environment through support, respect, and trust.
 
Support means giving people the tools, information, training, and coaching they need to succeed. It means continuous effort to develop people’s skills. Great managers help people excel and grow.
 
Respect means understanding people’s unique career goals and being
Key takeaways from Bill Campbell and The Trillion Dollar Coach:
  1. Your title makes you a manager. Your people make you a leader.To be a good leader, you need to first be an excellent manager by accruing respect and not demanding it.
  2. It’s the people.The top priority of any manager is the well-being and success of his/her people.
  3. Start with trip reports.To build rapport and better relationships amongst team members, start team meeting with personal or non-business related topics.
  4. 5 words on a whiteboard.Have a structure for one-on-one’s and take the time to prepare for them, as they are the best way to help people be more productive and to grow.
  5. The best idea, not consensus.A manager’s job is to run a decision-making process that ensures that all perspectives get heard and considered. If necessary, to break ties and make a decision.
  6. Lead-based on first principles.Defining the “first principles” for the situation, the unchangeable truths that are the foundation for the company or product, and help guide the decision from those principles.
  7. Manage the Aberrant Genius.“Aberrant Geniuses” are high performing but difficult team members, should be tolerated and even protected as long as their behavior isn’t unethical or abusive and when their value provided outweighs the toll their behavior takes on management, colleagues and teams.
  8. Money’s not just about the money.Compensating people well demonstrates love and respect, which ties them firmly to the goals of the company.
  9. Innovation is where crazy people have stature.The purpose of a company is to bring a product vision to life. All the other components are in service to the product.
  10. Build an envelope of trust.Listen attentively, practice complete frankness and be an evangelist for courage by believing in people more than they believe in themselves.
  11. Only coach the coachable.Traits that make an individual coachable include honesty, humility, willingness to persevere, hard working and a constant openness to learning.
  12. Practice free-form listening.Listen to people with your full and undivided attention without continually thinking ahead to what you’re going to say next. Instead, ask questions to get to the real issue.
  13. No gaps between statements and fact.Be relentlessly honest and candid, couple negative with caring feedback. Give feedback as soon as possible, and if the feedback is negative, deliver it privately.
  14. Don’t stick it in their ear.Don’t tell people what to do, instead offer stories and help guide them to the best decisions for them.
  15. Full identity front and center.People are most effective when they can be completely themselves and bring their whole identity to work.
  16. Team first. The team is of utmost importance; the most important thing to look for in people is a team-first attitude.
  17. Work the team, then the problem. When faced with a challenge or an opportunity, the first step is to ensure the right team is in place and working on it.
  18. Pick the right players.The top characteristics to look for are smarts and hearts. E.g. the ability to learn fast, a willingness to work hard, integrity, grit, empathy and a team-first attitude.
  19. Pair people.Peer relationships are critical and often overlooked, so seek opportunities to pair people up on projects or decisions.
  20. Get to the table.Winning often depends on having the best teams consisting of a mix of genders.
  21. Solve the most significant problem first.Identify the biggest issues, bringing it to the front and tackling it first.
  22. Don’t let the bitch sessions last.Air all negative issues, but don’t dwell on them. Learn to move on and move on as fast as possible.
  23. Winning right.Strive to win, but always win right with commitment, teamwork and integrity.
  24. Leaders lead.When the going gets tough, teams are often looking for even more loyalty, commitment and decisiveness from their leaders.
  25. Fill the gaps between people.Listen, observe and fill the communication and understanding gaps between people.
  26. It’s OK to love.People on your team are human beings by nature, and the group becomes stronger when you break down the walls between the professional and human personas, embracing them with love.
  27. To care about people, you have to care about people.Ask about their lives outside of work, understand their families and show up.
  28. Cheer demonstrably for people and their success.Don’t just sit there, stand up and show them the love for the work they are doing. Energize, motivate and inspire people to keep them moving.
  29. Always build community.Build communities inside and outside of work. A place is much stronger when individuals are connected.
  30. Help people.Be generous with your time, connections and other resources.
  31. Love the founders.Hold a special reverence for and protect the people who are the founders of the company, often these people are the ones with the most vision and passion for the company.
  32. Build relationships whenever you can. Be it when you’re in the elevator, passing someone in the hallway, or see your teammates in the cafeteria, take the time to stop and chat about their lives and share a little about yours.

What makes great companies great is not solely the culture but also the people that help to build that culture.

About the Authors

  • Eric Schmidt served as Google CEO and chairman from 2001 until 2011, Google executive chairman from 2011 to 2015, and Alphabet executive chairman from 2015 to 2018.
  • Jonathan Rosenberg was a Senior Vice President at Google and is an advisor to the Alphabet management team. He ran the Google product team from 2002 to 2011.
  • Alan Eagle has been a director at Google since 2007. Formerly Eric and Jonathan’s speechwriter, he currently runs a set of Google’s sales programs.

References:

  1. https://trilliondollarcoach.com
  2. https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/ericschmidt/trillion-dollar-coach-book-bill-campbell
  3. https://trilliondollarcoach.com/static/common/images/pdf/trillion-dollar-coach_preview.pdf
  4. https://www.fastcompany.com/90331367/bill-campbell-silicon-valley-trillion-dollar-coach-book
  5. https://medium.com/motivationlifehacks/book-summary-trillion-dollar-coach-bill-campbell-6ad32cd607f3#:~:text=Key%20takeaways%3A,respect%20and%20not%20demanding%20it.

Emotional Well-Being and Gratitude During COVID-19

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“Your personal experiences make up maybe 0.00000001% of what’s happened in the world but maybe 80% of how you think the world works… We’re all biased to our own personal history.” Morgan Housel, Ideas That Changed My Life

COVID-19 Stressing You Out

According to the CDC, everyone reacts differently to stressful situations such as a pandemic and lock down. As Americans experience the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic such as worry about job loss, concern for your health or that of a loved one, the need to social distance, confining yourself to your home or apartment, changing your routine, spending more screen time than normal, it’s important to practice some degree of emotional self-care.

Finding ways to practice self-care can help reduce your stress and enhance your emotional well-being during the COVID-19 pandemic. Healthy ways to cope with stress include:

  • Taking daily walks
  • Practicing meditation
  • Making time to pray and to express gratitude
  • Knowing where and how to get help
  • Taking breaks from watching, reading, or listening to the sensationalized news stories and coverage about COVID19, protests, and political rancor
  • Reading novels and writing in journals
  • Learning a new skill or hobby
  • Eating healthy foods and getting enough sleep
  • Avoiding or reducing eating processed foods, foods high in refined sugars and carbs, and fried foods
  • Exercising and prioritizing time to unwind by doing activities you enjoy
  • Connecting with others (while social physical distancing measures are in place, consider connecting online, through social media, or by phone or mail)

Gratitude

Gratitude is recognizing the “value for favorable things or positive life experiences for which we did not actively work towards or ask for”, according to Sadhguru. Gratitude is important because it helps us see a world that is much bigger than ourselves. When we have gratitude, we can help ourselves and each other grow personally or professionally.

Psychologists find that, over time, feeling grateful boosts happiness and fosters both physical and psychological health, even among those already struggling with mental health problems. Ways you can foster gratitude by keeping a journal to write about the little joys of daily life or by writing down “three good things” that have gone well for you and identify the cause. Additionally, you can also foster gratitude by writing thank-you notes to others or going out of your way to be kind to others, according to Psychology Today Magazine.

Sources:

  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hope-relationships/202004/overcoming-depression-and-desperation-in-the-time-covid-19
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/gratitude