“The great Western disease is, ‘I’ll be happy when… When I get the money. When I get a BMW. When I get this job. When I get the relationship,’ Well, the reality is, you never get to when. The only way to find happiness is to understand that happiness is not out there. It’s in here. And happiness is not next week. It’s now.” Marshall Goldsmith
Research shows that after you make enough money to pay your essential expenses and save for the future, making more does little for your happiness. A 2010 study by economist and psychologist Daniel Kahneman found that, where wealth is concerned, a person’s satisfaction with their life no longer increases after about $75,000 ($90,000 in today’s dollars) a year.
If anything, once people start making a lot of money, they begin to think they’re doing worse in life, because they become obsessed with comparing themselves to those who appear richer and appear to be living a relatively larger and more luxurious social media embellished lifestyle. But, it important to remember that, “Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness”, Benjamin Franklin quipped. “The more of it one has the more one wants.
Instead, research suggests that spending money on experiences rather than tangible goods, giving to others with no thought of reward, and expressing gratitude for what you have, results in the greatest feelings of happiness.
Pitfalls of chasing money
Focusing on chasing the accoutrements of wealth is a trap, because it leads only to an increased focus on chasing wealth. Even multimillionaires make the mistake of believing that money, and not time, experiences and gratitude, will enrich their lives.
“These days, in our materialistic culture, many people are led to believe that money is the ultimate source of happiness. Consequently, when they don’t have enough of it they feel let down. Therefore, it is important to let people know that they have the source of contentment and happiness within themselves, and that it is related to nurturing our natural inner values.” Dalai Lama
A few thousand of the world’s wealthiest people were surveyed and asked how much money they’d needed to be “perfectly happy”, according to Harvard Business Review. Seventy-five percent (many of whom had a net worth of $10 million or more) said they’d needed “a lot more” ($5 million to $10 million, “at the very least”) to be happy.
It doesn’t take a PhD in psychology to see how misguided the mindset of “needing a lot more money” is not related to achieving happiness.
Money may not buy happiness, but there are some things you can do to try to increase happiness such as writing down what you’re grateful for. Literally “counting your blessings” can help you feel more positive. Instead of thinking about what you don’t have, think about the things you do have.
Nothing less than your health and happiness depends on reversing the innate notion that money alone leads to happiness. It’s important to start seeing time, daily habits, being grateful, and lifestyle are the main drivers that determines your happiness:
- Convince yourself that your time, expressing your gratitude, and your health are more important than money and your bank account balance.
- Remind yourself that your values and that your closely aligned goals when faced with critical life and financial decisions.
- Make deliberate and strategic decisions that allow you to have more time across days, weeks months, and years.
Among millionaires, past studies reveal that wealth may be likely to pay off in greater personal happiness only at very high levels of wealth ($10 million or more), and when that wealth was earned rather than inherited.
Takeaways
Research concludes that money can buy life satisfaction and that money is unlikely to buy happiness, but it may help you achieve happiness to an extent through experiences, expressing gratitude, and giving to others. Look for experiences and opportunities that will help you feel fulfilled and that are aligned with your values. And, remember to count your blessings.
And beyond that, you can find happiness through other nonfinancial means, like spending time with people you enjoy or thinking about the good things in your life. Since, “Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth…”, according to Sir John Templeton. “Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it.”
References:
- https://www.pnas.org/content/107/38/16489.full
- https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2020/10/19/even-millionaires-make-this-money-mindset-mistake-says-harvard-psychologistheres-the-real-cost-of-it.html
- https://www.healthline.com/health/can-money-buy-happiness