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Warren Buffett Defines “True Success”

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“True success’ in business and life has nothing to do with money.

In an interview, legendary investor Warren Buffett offered his definition for “true success.”

“Well, I’ve said many times that, if you get to be 65 or 70 and later, and the people that you want to have love you actually do love you, you’re a success,” Buffett said in the Yahoo Finance interview.

Buffett doesn’t believe money or power or social status makes a person successful. “I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them,” said Buffett. “If you get to my age in life and nobody thinks well of you, I don’t care how big your bank account is, your life is a disaster.”

Buffett offers three pieces of advice for people looking to succeed in business and life.

  • Invest in yourself, and in particular, try to improve your communication skills. “If you can’t communicate to somebody, it’s like winking at a girl in the dark,” Buffett quipped.
  • Take care of your mind and body. “You get exactly one mind and one body in this world. And you can’t start taking care of it when you’re 50,” he said.
  • You should associate yourself with others who “are better than you are.” He added, “Basically, you’ll go in the direction of the people that you associate with. And you want to have the right heroes.”

Key takeaway — the amount you are loved — not your wealth or accomplishments — is the ultimate measure of success in life. “The problem with love is that it’s not for sale,” Buffett explains. “The only way to get love is to be lovable. It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.”

The most important lesson of a life well-lived, according to Buffett, has nothing to do with wealth and everything to do with the most powerful human emotion: love. 

“Basically, when you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you.

I know many people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them.

That’s the ultimate test of how you have lived your life. The trouble with love is that you can’t buy it. You can buy sex. You can buy testimonial dinners. But the only way to get love is to be lovable.

It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.” Warren Buffett, The Snowball: Warren Buffett and the Business of Life by Alice Schroeder

References:

  1. https://money.yahoo.com/warren-buffett-definition-success-174700744.html
  2. https://selfmadesuccess.com/warren-buffett-success-quotes/
  3. https://app.landit.com/articles/buffets-5-step-process-for-prioritizing-true-success
  4. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/02/13/billionaire-warren-buffett-says-this-is-the-only-measure-of-success-that-matters.html‬
  5. https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/warren-buffett-says-it-doesnt-matter-how-rich-you-are-without-this-1-thing-your-life-is-a-disaster.html

Value Time Over Money

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“It’s essential that you place a high value on your time.”

Happiness is more than simply a positive mood, according to Psychology Today. It is a state of well-being that encompasses living a good life, one with a sense of meaning, purpose and deep contentment. Happiness encompasses feelings of satisfaction and c. involves creating strong relationships and helping others. It requires also uncomfortable or painful experiences—to continue to learn, grow, and evolve.

Coincidentally, emotional well-being refers to the emotional quality of an individual’s everyday experience—the frequency and intensity of experiences of joy, stress, sadness, anger, and affection that make one’s life pleasant or unpleasant.

Time and time again, research has shown that not only do you need a finite amount of money to be happy, but that prioritizing things like time, relationships, hobbies and family may actually lead to long-term well-being. Research shows that the finite sweet spot for yearly income is between $60,000 and $95,000 a year, not a high six-figure salary. Earnings above $95,000 do not necessarily equate to increased well-being.

A study published by Science Advances in 2019 found that recent grads who valued time over money, in which they took jobs that were less demanding but also paid less money, were generally happier.

People who prioritize money are generally driven by extrinsic motivations like shopping, which bring little personal satisfaction, researchers concluded.

On the other hand, people who prioritize time are typically intrinsically motivated, focusing on hobbies, relationships and cultivating gratitude instead. Intrinsic motivations build autonomy and purpose, which lead to long-term happiness, the researchers concluded.

Although wealth offers the potential for people to spend their time in happier ways, such as by living in a more expensive apartment closer to the office, survey data suggest that wealthier individuals often spend more of their time engaging in activities that are less enjoyable, such as commuting. Research suggests that rising incomes are linked to an increased sense of time scarcity.

Takeaway

Happy people live with purpose and value time over money. They find joy in lasting relationships, working toward their goals, and living according to their values. They tend not to garner happiness from material goods or luxury vacations. They’re fine with the simple pleasures of life and cultivating gratitude.

People who cultivate gratitude tend to better appreciate and enjoy life, as gratitude creates satisfaction that is intrinsic. To practice gratitude, reflect on what you’re grateful for each morning to shape the rest of the day, keep a gratitude journal, and reframe negative experiences by finding something within them for which you’re grateful, and can learn and grow.

References:

  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/happiness
  2. https://www.pnas.org/content/107/38/16489.full
  3. https://www.synchronybank.com/blog/millie/money-and-happiness/
  4. https://advances.sciencemag.org/content/5/9/eaax2615.full
  5. https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/5-things-science-learned-about-happiness-last-year.html
  6. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/happiness/how-find-happiness

Money and Happiness

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“The great Western disease is, ‘I’ll be happy when… When I get the money. When I get a BMW. When I get this job. When I get the relationship,’ Well, the reality is, you never get to when. The only way to find happiness is to understand that happiness is not out there. It’s in here. And happiness is not next week. It’s now.” Marshall Goldsmith

Research shows that after you make enough money to pay your essential expenses and save for the future, making more does little for your happiness. A 2010 study by economist and psychologist Daniel Kahneman found that, where wealth is concerned, a person’s satisfaction with their life no longer increases after about $75,000 ($90,000 in today’s dollars) a year.

If anything, once people start making a lot of money, they begin to think they’re doing worse in life, because they become obsessed with comparing themselves to those who appear richer and appear to be living a relatively larger and more luxurious social media embellished lifestyle. But, it important to remember that, “Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness”, Benjamin Franklin quipped. “The more of it one has the more one wants.

Instead, research suggests that spending money on experiences rather than tangible goods, giving to others with no thought of reward, and expressing gratitude for what you have, results in the greatest feelings of happiness.

Pitfalls of chasing money

Focusing on chasing the accoutrements of wealth is a trap, because it leads only to an increased focus on chasing wealth. Even multimillionaires make the mistake of believing that money, and not time, experiences and gratitude, will enrich their lives.

“These days, in our materialistic culture, many people are led to believe that money is the ultimate source of happiness. Consequently, when they don’t have enough of it they feel let down. Therefore, it is important to let people know that they have the source of contentment and happiness within themselves, and that it is related to nurturing our natural inner values.” Dalai Lama

A few thousand of the world’s wealthiest people were surveyed and asked how much money they’d needed to be “perfectly happy”, according to Harvard Business Review. Seventy-five percent (many of whom had a net worth of $10 million or more) said they’d needed “a lot more” ($5 million to $10 million, “at the very least”) to be happy.

It doesn’t take a PhD in psychology to see how misguided the mindset of “needing a lot more money” is not related to achieving happiness.

Money may not buy happiness, but there are some things you can do to try to increase happiness such as writing down what you’re grateful for. Literally “counting your blessings” can help you feel more positive. Instead of thinking about what you don’t have, think about the things you do have.

Nothing less than your health and happiness depends on reversing the innate notion that money alone leads to happiness. It’s important to start seeing time, daily habits, being grateful, and lifestyle are the main drivers that determines your happiness:

  1. Convince yourself that your time, expressing your gratitude, and your health are more important than money and your bank account balance.
  2. Remind yourself that your values and that your closely aligned goals when faced with critical life and financial decisions.
  3. Make deliberate and strategic decisions that allow you to have more time across days, weeks months, and years.

Among millionaires, past studies reveal that wealth may be likely to pay off in greater personal happiness only at very high levels of wealth ($10 million or more), and when that wealth was earned rather than inherited.

Takeaways

Research concludes that money can buy life satisfaction and that money is unlikely to buy happiness, but it may help you achieve happiness to an extent through experiences, expressing gratitude, and giving to others. Look for experiences and opportunities that will help you feel fulfilled and that are aligned with your values. And, remember to count your blessings.

And beyond that, you can find happiness through other nonfinancial means, like spending time with people you enjoy or thinking about the good things in your life. Since, “Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth…”, according to Sir John Templeton. “Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it.”

References:

  1. https://www.pnas.org/content/107/38/16489.full
  2. https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2020/10/19/even-millionaires-make-this-money-mindset-mistake-says-harvard-psychologistheres-the-real-cost-of-it.html
  3. https://www.healthline.com/health/can-money-buy-happiness

Quote of the Week

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“Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth. Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it.”

Sir John Templeton, an American-born British investor, banker, fund manager, and philanthropist. He created the Templeton Growth Fund, which averaged growth over 15% per year for 38 years.

No. 1 Secret to Success, Wealth and Happiness in Life

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“Kindness and generosity are the keys to happiness and prosperity.”Wahei Takeda, president and founder of Takeda Confectionery Co.

Wahei Takeda, president and founder of Takeda Confectionery Co., was considered a truly happy man, and lived by example a life that demonstrated to others what it really meant to live a successful and meaningful life. Often called the “Warren Buffet of Japan”, Takeda was one of the country’s most successful and well-known investors.

The key to a happy and abundant life

Takeda’s philosophy of “maro,” which in Japanese means ‘a sincere heart’, “inner contentment and gratitude are the keys to a happy and abundant life”.

The secret to a happy life isn’t an abundance of wealth, since rarely does anyone says they have too much, or just enough. “Winning a $20 million lottery ticket won’t make you happier,” said Dr. Sanjiv Chopra, a professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School. “Research has shown that after one year, lottery winners go back to their baseline. Some are even less happy.”

Chopra explains the four things that have been scientifically linked to happiness:

1. Relationship with Friends and family

Developing a close bond with people we trust and confide in is essential to our overall well-being. “Choose your friends wisely and celebrate everything small and good with them,” Chopra says.

Researchers have also warned that “loneliness and social isolation can be as damaging to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day,” whereas friendships can “reduce the risk of mortality or developing certain diseases and can speed recovery in those who fall ill.”

2. Forgiveness

“The ability to forgive frees you from the burdens of hate and other unhealthy emotions that can negatively impact your happiness quotient,” says Chopra.

He cites Nelson Mandela as a hero who truly mastered the art of forgiveness. In 1990, when the legendary freedom fighter emerged from his 27 years of prison, he was asked whether he had any resentment toward his captors.

“I have no bitterness, I have no resentment. Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies,” Mandela responded.

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”  Nelson Mandela

3. Giving

Chopra says that getting involved with charities and donating money to help others is one of the most fulfilling ways to spend your time and money.  Researchers have suggested that people who volunteer experience greater happiness, higher self-esteem and a lower mortality rate.

A study from the University of Chicago and Northwestern University found that giving, rather than receiving, leads to long-term happiness. In one experiment, 96 participants were given $5 every day for five days — with the option to either spend it on themselves or on others.

“Everyone started off with similar levels of self-reported happiness,” the researchers wrote. “Those who spent money on themselves reported a steady decline in happiness over the five-day period. But happiness didn’t seem to fade for those who gave their money to someone else.”

4. Gratitude

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” Roman Orator Marcus Tullius Cicero once

“There’s a wonderful anonymous quote that goes, ‘If you don’t know the language of gratitude, you’ll never be on speaking terms with happiness,’” Chopra says.

Practicing gratitude can be as simple as saying “I’m grateful” at least once a day. In fact, one study from the American Psychological Association found that doing so can help people savor positive experiences, cope with stressful circumstances and strengthen relationships. It will also measurably improve your own overall satisfaction and happiness in your relationships and life.

“Happiness flows not from physical or external conditions, such as bodily pleasures or wealth and power, but from living a life that’s right for your soul, your deepest good.” Socrates

“Taking time to think about what you’re grateful for makes you more aware of the positive things in your life,” says Chopra. As a result, “it makes you less biased by the fewer negative things in your life.”

In a money-obsessed capitalist society, the simplest way to reach a state of happiness, contentment and abundant life is to express gratitude and give to others, instead of always wanting or asking for more. Bottomline, “gratitude is a key to wealth, health, and happiness”.

References:

  1. https://www.cnbc.com/2021/01/25/warren-buffett-of-japan-secret-to-success-happiness-and-wealth-in-life.html
  2. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/05/31/harvard-professor-says-winning-20-million-lottery-wont-make-you-happy-but-heres-what-will.html?updated
  3. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/01/24/saying-this-powerful-phrase-is-the-science-backed-secret-to-a-happy-relationship.html?__source=iosappshare%7Ccom.microsoft.msedge.EMMXShareExtension

 

Healthy Aging and Lifestyle: Achieving Happiness and Purpose

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“If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my years on this planet, it’s that the happiest and most fulfilled people are those who devoted themselves to something bigger and more profound than merely their own self-interest.” John Glenn

Healthy Aging with purpose is about embracing opportunities to reshape your lives, connect with and help one another, and change the world for the better —all while learning, growing, getting better and having fun!

Work at your relationships all the time. Take care of friendships, hold people you love close to you, take advantage of birthdays and celebrate fiercely.
Patti LaBelle

References:

  1. https://seniorplanet.org/14-of-the-best-quotes-about-aging/
  2. https://www.zyto.com/5-inspirational-quotes-for-healthy-aging